“With miscarriage, because our culture can be divided about whether or not this is actually a human-being. . . there’s no cultural space that acknowledges that grief.”–Tish Harrison Warren Click To Tweet
In this episode,Tish Harrison Warren shares her painful story of miscarriage. Because miscarriage was a wordless experience, she recognized her need for words from her community. She grasped on to 
liturgies of lament, wrapping time-tested words around her grief in the presence of community.
How do we pastor those who have experienced loss through miscarriage, stillbirth, infertility or a regretted abortion? Listen as Tish casts a vision of grief care through liturgy.
Tish Harrison Warren is an Anglican Priest and the author of Liturgy of the Ordinary: Sacred Practices in Everyday Life.
“Miscarriage, for me it was complex grieving. I mean this baby–this living and dying that was all happening right in my body . . . it’s hard for even finding words for this. And I think that’s partly because in times of deep grief, words are given to us. That’s why we have funerals. And because we don’t have that typically for women that walk through miscarriage, it can be a wordless experience.”
– Tish Harrison Warren
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Links & Resources:
- Check out Tish’s book Liturgy of the Ordinary: Sacred Practices in Everyday Life
- Read about the Service of Memorial and Lament on Tish’s blog
- Read Tish’s article in Christianity Today I Cremated My Son: How caring for miscarried children offers a radically pro-life vision
- Follow Tish Harrison Warren on Twitter
- What Parents Need Most from Their Pastors after Miscarriage – Christianity Today Pastors
- 7-day Devotional: Grieving with Hope After Miscarriage and Loss
Music:
- Kai Engel: Tumult, Harbor, Meekness, and Aspirato
- Tudor Consort: Kyrie Eleison
- Joelle Hochstedler: Pain and Abide with Me
Special Thanks to Indelible Grace for granting us permission to record their arrangement of Abide With Me for use in this episode. This version of Abide with Me was written by Henry Lyte, arranged by Justin Smith and performed by Joelle Hochstedler, Deb Gregory and Joe Byler.
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