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The Social Reality of Homelessness and Our #TrulyHuman Identity

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A few weeks ago I was meeting with a man living through homelessness. Acute sickness led to medical treatment that led to missed work. Missed work led to an eviction notice. When we first met in December I could tell he hadn't been homeless for long. You can always tell when someone is recently socially displaced. Sure enough, he had only been homeless a few months.  I knew I had to "catch" him before his mind slipped into the hellish place of survivability. See, when someone is homeless they move from responsibility and sustainability to survivability. Survivability is where fight, flight or freeze kicks in. It is when the traumatic experience of losing everything and ending up "homeless" takes root in the mind, body and soul. Adverse coping behaviors are developed and behaviors like addictions or manipulation are embraced in the name of survival. In my experience it doesn't take long for trauma to set in, so I knew I had to catch him.

When we talked I mentioned how difficult it was going to be for him to go back to a "housed" way of life and how likely it would be for him to relapse. Relapse often happens because the cognitive, emotional and social realties of poverty are rarely addressed when someone comes "off the street." His response was a resounding, "Hell no I won't!”

Of course. I am glad he was that convicted.

So I asked him what he was planning to do tomorrow. He didn't know. I asked him about the next day. He didn't know. I asked him about five days from now. He didn't know. He began to weep as he started to see that his mind was slipping into survivability–just trying to make it through each day, one hour at a time. I needed him to realize this if I were going to be able to offer him a vision of a different way of living, one that could reorient his mind and heart, even while living unhoused.

He then told me that the worst part of being homeless isn't that he has no money or a place to live, it's the despair. I asked him if he would let me to walk with him through this season, after all no one deserves to be alone. He hesitantly agreed.

So I gave him a journal and together we came up with one week's worth of to-do lists to begin addressing the cognitive reality of poverty. Go here. Go there. Visit here. Do this. It was simple but I knew it would give him something to "live" for, to plan, work toward and do.
A week later he was a different man with a little bit of hope. We bought a gift card for a coffee shop and came up with an additional weekly rhythm where he would go inside, grab a cup of coffee, sit down and read a good book. This was better than hanging out at the train station. Another week later he had a little more hope. He did this and other simple things for two months while applying for jobs (of course it is hard to get a job when you're carrying your suitcase of belongings in an interview room while smelling like a homeless person). Each time we talked he would always end with, "I have hope and things are looking better."

Over time he began to trust me. Over time I began to care about him. This leads me to the point of my story.

A few weeks ago we were sitting in my office. By God's grace and the help of our Executive Director at 3e Restoration Inc., Tammy Harden, (she's a ninja!) we were able to secure him a place to live with a great roommate (another guy I'm walking with in a similar situation). While we were there I invited him to take this journey to the next level, one where I was asking for permission to walk even closer with him.

That is when my heart broke.

He asked why I would want to take time to walk with him. I said, "Because I've grown to care for you, man. You're my friend."

He began to weep.

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After a few minutes of silence I asked why he was so emotional. "You just don't know, man. I haven't heard those words in a long time. When you're homeless and alone it's easy to believe no one cares, not even God.”

I didn't know what to say. All I could think about was how the Person of Jesus, as God-made-flesh, reminds us that no one deserves to be abandoned or stand alone.

Only when we are not alone can the loneliness be manageable. Maybe this is why Jesus promised never to leave us and time and again reminds us that no one is ever lost on God. This is what I have called in the 3e Restoration Curriculum the "Social Reality" of poverty. It's rarely addressed but is something the local church is perfectly designed for as a community of reconciliation, healing and hope.

I find that when a Church embraces gracious hospitality as a posture and way of being in society, surprising friendships are formed and healing begins. But if gracious hospitality is to become a posture and way of being, we must see our lives through resurrected eyes. We must believe that our lives are not happenstance and neither are our encounters with others. As every day people living in everyday places we learn to be open to the possibility that nothing or no one is irredeemable–a resurrected King Jesus makes us prisoners of hope.

Now our resurrectional identity is more than a theological platitude. It becomes what it means to be #trulyhuman, and this different way of being in our every day places leads to a different way of doing life in every day ways. And it inevitably moves us closer to others where surprising friendships are formed and healing begins. I look forward to exploring this more at the Missio Alliance North American Gathering as I participate in Forum 6: Discipleship as transformation: Living and Working as People of Resurrection. I hope you’ll be there too.
Before I close, I’m grateful to God to share that now my friend has a great job. All it took was a new shirt, new pair of pants, a place to store his belongings, a couple of new friends, and a little bit of hope. He landed the job with one try, once he was able to look and smell the part and have a place to store his gear. I'm also happy to tell you that he is doing well in his new apartment and with his new roommate. Oh, and one more thing: he knows now beyond the shadow of every doubt that the gospel is good news—life-giving, healing news. In his words, "I didn't know how sick I was until I went to the doctor.”

I look forward to seeing the Great Physician lead him to resurrection.

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